Feeling Burnt Out as a Christian Counselor?

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By AACC Staff

3 Questions for the Exhausted Christian Counselor

If you’re a counselor, odds are you became a counselor because you wanted to help people. Your caring heart and concern for others are noble, and your gifting is why you’re good at what you do. But even the best of us can hit a wall—and when you do hit that wall, it usually sneaks up on you.

Rarely do counselors cite just one complex case or a difficult client when explaining compassion fatigue. Burnout builds slowly, steadily, and surely. It feels disorienting and depleting and is a reality that every counselor faces at some point. But take heart—it’s not time to quit. It’s just time to reassess and recharge.

If you’re feeling exhausted, emotionally numb, or like you’re pouring from an empty cup, ask yourself these three things:

Am I Actually Leaving Work, Or Do I Take It With Me Everywhere?

As a Christian counselor, you often go above and beyond for your clients. You hear their pain, carry their burdens, and strive to be a source of constant support. But there’s a critical balance between walking alongside someone and carrying their load for them.

You may have found yourself answering late-night calls, checking your email while at dinner with friends, or shouldering the emotional weight of your clients’ struggles long after your sessions have ended. If so, your compassion is admirable—but can also be unsustainable.

Reflect on how well you’re setting boundaries between your professional and personal life. Setting boundaries is not about closing yourself off from the needs of others, but about managing your own needs in a way that doesn’t lead to complete exhaustion.

Am I Neglecting My Own Spiritual Nourishment?

When caring for others, neglecting your own spiritual needs is too easy. As a Christian counselor, you might spend all day encouraging others to seek God, only to go home and relax without spending restful time in scripture. Without regular spiritual nourishment, burnout is inevitable.

Your effectiveness as a counselor is tied to your relationship with God. If you’re spiritually drained, providing life-giving counsel to others becomes difficult. In 2 Corinthians 1:4, Paul explains that we comfort others with the comfort we first receive from God—which means your ability to help others could be limited if you don’t spend enough time with God, yourself.

How much time are you spending in personal prayer, Scripture reading, and meditation? Are you taking time to feed your soul, or has the business of your role pushed this aside?

Spiritual disciplines are not just for your clients; they’re vital for you, too. Connecting with God personally and intimately will refresh your spirit and renew your passion for the work He’s called you to do.

Am I Leaning on People for Support?

Counseling can be an isolating profession. You spend your days listening to the challenges and struggles of others, but you have burdens, too— and you are not meant to bear the weight of them alone. Just as you support others, you need support. That support comes from community.

Burnout often thrives in isolation. When you withdraw from communities—whether that’s a church group, family, or peers—you miss out on the encouragement, wisdom, and perspective that others can offer. Evaluate how well and often you’re connecting with other believers, and make the necessary adjustments.

Do you have a trusted group who can pray for you, listen to your struggles, and encourage you? If you do, lean into those relationships. Open up about your struggles with trusted friends or colleagues, and seek opportunities to share, rest, and recharge.

Community is essential not just for our well-being, but also for keeping us grounded in our faith and mission. We are not lone rangers, nor are we meant to be. We are part of the body of Christ, and we were created to do life with one another. Let others help shoulder your burdens when they feel too heavy.

Cast Your Cares on God, Who Cares for You

Burnout can be real for Christian counselors, but you’re not powerless to it. Asking yourself three questions—about boundaries, spiritual nourishment, and community—can go a long way. Remember to lean into your faith, seek the Lord, and cast your cares on Him (English Standard Version Bible, 2001, 1 Peter 5:7). He cares for you.

Compassion fatigue is real, but God has provided the means for everything pertaining to life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3). Use the resources God has graciously provided you, find comfort in His promises, and pay God’s care for you forward.

Lastly, be encouraged. As tiring as your work can be, know that it makes a tremendous difference. God sees that you’re laboring for Him, and He will reward your faithfulness. If your counseling work has been challenging lately, remember God’s perspective and be encouraged by Paul’s words in 2 Corinthians 4:17 (English Standard Version Bible, 2001):

“So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.”

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References

English Standard Version Bible. (2001). The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. Crossway Bibles.