Getting Relationships Right: How to Recognize and Respond to Abusive Behaviors

by Dr. Tim Clinton | Leslie Vernick

Original Air Date: 2/23/2024
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Counselor and author Leslie Vernick has over 30 years of experience working with couples and individuals trapped in abusive relationships. In this conversation with Dr. Tim Clinton, she helps uncover key warning signs to better equip couples, pastors, counselors, and laypeople to recognize and respond to emotional, verbal, mental, and even physical abuse.

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